Certified Coordinated Bride Jaclynn

Journal Entry #2

I said yes to him…Now, will you say yes to me?

Where do you begin on the women you choose to stand beside you on the day you marry the love of your life?    You go where your heart leads you.  I started with a Matron of Honor. A few days after I found out we were definitely going to be getting married, I took a friend to brunch and expressed my love and admiration for her followed by asking if she’d be my Matron of Honor. She agreed and I can say I have not had any reservations or been worried that anything would go wrong under her leadership.

She’s warm, kind, conscientious and organized.  Those traits, along with love, joy, honesty, truth and kindness, led me into choosing the rest of a fantastic group of women to join her in being by my side.  I considered women I’ve had wonderful relationships

with throughout my life. I’m totally not the artistic type and I’m not very creative. I was also in a hug e rush to get everything together and never checked Pinterest before I went out and purchased cute cards to describe our friendship and the significance each lady had in my life.

Lindsay – Best Matron of Honor ever.  I literally have had worry about nothing… except she keeps telling me that I have no business asking questions. It’s tough! I met her in dinner club, where we both met our respective spouses, and have enjoyed a rich friendship with awesome experiences since then. She’s hard-working, generous and kind enough to deal with my neuroses.  Luckily, since she’s a recent bride she knows how to keep me on my toes and out of my own. {I am depending on you to make my Pinterest wedding a reality.}

Ashley – Bug has the best sense of humor of anyone I’ve ever known. She’s got an insatiable need for knowledge and has fun quirks – from driving with her feet and knees to her ability to make anyone laugh at any time about anything. I owe so many of life’s funniest and most challenging moments to her wit and I’m so grateful to have her help on my wedding day! {I need your help to hold up my dress while I pee.}

Apryl – Apryl and I became fast friends when I met her through her husband at a picnic several years ago. She’s the consummate business woman and an amazing Mama to three sweet littles.   Somewhere in there she still finds time to be a fantastic wife and give great advice on business and home. She’s my favorite soft spot to land after a long day and she never turns me down. {I said yes to him…Now, will you say yes to me.}

Katie – I have known Katie since 6th grade and she’s always been a shining example of how faith, family and friendship can play a role in all aspects of your life. She’s a wonderful mother and someone I look up to daily. We’ve been through high school and college boyfriends together and now we’ve each finally landed Prince Charming. {You helped me through all my frogs, now help me tie down my prince!}

Wakisha – Where do you find a stylish smart woman of faith? Right in my line up! I met Wakisha through a friend from school six years ago. She’s a transplant from Savannah and brings so much charm and wit with a huge twist of honesty. She’s always told me the truth and never once sugar coated anything. Every woman should have a friend who lets them gently know where they stand and the ways they could improve… and gets them to church looking fabulous on time! {I can’t say “I Do” without you in a God awful dress}

PS – They’ll look stunning in their dresses! We don’t play awful over here

Whitney – My college buddy left New Orleans after Katrina, but our friendship has remained steadfast through Skype, text and morning chats. Whitney has always told me that we don’t lower our standards and that we are the prize here and honestly… I’m pretty grateful for the lesson. She’s fun, down to earth and inquisitive with an alter ego that puts Sasha Fierce to shame. {Got my man, now I need my feyoncé.}

Finally… My sweet junior bridesmaid, Reagan. She’s one of my baby cousins that actually lives close. I’ve had the pleasure of doing makeup for her prom and gearing up for her senior year in high school. I have looked forward to all of these days since she was a bright eyed newborn and I am overjoyed to have her as a member of my wedding party. {He’s thinks he’s marrying me, but he’s really marrying US}

I have had a blast getting myself together with these ladies. From dress shopping to check in phone calls, everything has gone great for me. I realize I am more of a hands off bride than I am a bridezilla and I think that is puzzling to most. I try to consider them and their schedules and I don’t want to do too much. I’m also not great at being the center of attention so the degree of calm they have about them totally works for me. I’m never so ruffled than anyone of them couldn’t calm me down and I’m beyond grateful for that.

I also have a fantastic group of ladies in my House Party. A house party is an old southern way of saying hostesses and it’s for even more women who are near and dear to you… We’ll meet them more in depth later!

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In closing, don’t let vendors stress you… I’ve been burned twice by people who either weren’t what they claimed or couldn’t provide the services they promised. On both counts, had I simply followed my own heart I would have never had these experiences. I cannot tell other brides this enough:  This day and the days after are about you and your hubby. Listen to him and take his input and your own thoughts to form the best opinion and course of action. You will save yourself heartache and frustration if you do.  If something doesn’t look or feel right?  SAY SOMETHING. Ask as many questions as you can because weddings are entirely too much money to go wrong with and you’re never too conscientious when it comes to your money. Try to find ways and things that keep you grounded and better able to handle stress. Reading, spa treatments and time alone with my fiancé are all great stress relievers for me.

I also remember this when all else fails:

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”  Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. – 2 Cor. 12:9-10

XO, Jaci